Dear Friends,
Women are very interesting creatures. I think they are beautiful, mesmerizing, strong, captivating, remarkable creations. And then we open our mouths.
Women are emotional and sensitive. Duh. If you are a woman reading this right now you're impatient that I'm even mentioning these obvious characteristics. Here are other observations I've noted about women that aren't so, well, nice:
*Women are competitive (with men, for men, to be seen by men, to be seen with men by other women)
*Women are territorial (we don't like to share)
*Women are catty (we pick small items to nag about and may manage to throw things if you're "not listening)
*Women are gossips (we say something to your face and talk about you behind your back, within the same 10 minutes sometimes)
*Women are loyal (we will fight for a friend even if we AND they are wrong)
*Women are jealous (of child-making abilities, of someone's position in life, of someone's body/health/hair/car/lifestyle/man)
*Women don't play fair (we feel free to point out judgements among others but swat away others poking fingers at us)
There were women in the Bible who competed to have more children and to have access to the husbands that they shared. There were women who were naturally beautiful and some who weren't who competed for the spotlight and for attention and affection. I understand how this could spur jealousy and insecurity. Those darn Hebrew men and their laws.
Nowadays women compete to see who can look the smallest after having kids. Or who can look like they have had the least plastic surgery done (or maybe it's the most? I don't ever know). Nowadays women would rather fight and harm with words than stand up and share responsibility for conflicts, or to put unrealistic expectations on children who have yet to grow into themselves physically and emotionally. Women can be downright mean and evil. "Snakes in the grass" that we wouldn't trust "as far as we could throw them."
It's quite saddening. All of the gossip, the immaturity/insecurity, the lack of grace and humility, the impatience, the unwillingness to let go and move on, is hindering the God-given gifts that are endowed specifically on women. Women risk their lives in other parts of the world by just possessing a vagina; struggling to obtain equal rights as men in the workforce; struggling to be a part of the church ministry; struggling to fight trafficking and keep their integrity and dignity intact and protect their children; struggling to pray for their families to be reconciled, for grievances to be fought through, for those "stuck" to become "unstuck" and to move on and grow; struggling not to give up or in to the demands of their children and to be firm in their best judgements; struggling to be encouraged when others seem to make a life's habit of telling them where they fail or how they should grow and when they should do things; struggling just to live and be counted for.
Women would make such a bigger impact on the world if they let go of the petty attitudes, the griping, the complaining, the nagging and learn to forgive and be forgiven. They would be stronger as a gender society if they would support one another, speak the truth in love, accept humility and patience as constant battles in life that they intend to fight. Women would be so much more useful if they worked together and not against. The Enemy has placed so many triggers in our minds and hearts through society, the media, misinterpreting Scripture and other religious garb, and through placing women in our lives who are just as if not more unstable than we are.
Women, stand up! Grow up! Put on your armor and get out there to fight. Show your children how to be strong. Show your loved ones that you are supportive unconditionally. Don't force yourselves onto one another, as Jesus never forced himself on anyone, no matter how "right" He was. He made himself available. Be available! Listen to that friend, even if you're on a tight time crunch. Time is just a measure of space, relax! Find ways to better yourself, and put one foot in front of the other while you prioritize those things and do them to the best of your ability. Seek positive and fruitful counsel! Whether from a therapist, a women's group at church, any way you can find help to maintain your emotional and mental health. The Enemy uses others to break down the thinning wall of wellbeing that surrounds your heart and your mind. Guard your heart! Set up boundaries to high heaven if that's necessary. Your heart and mind are your own responsibility to guard and keep in tip-top shape for the well-being of your family unit, your work, and your mission in life.
The book of Titus instructs the older women to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and their children. Older women, please support the younger women! Talk to them! Offer help! Offer advice! Be humble and admit things you could have done better. Life should not be one big secret. It is most meaningful to share, encourage, and uplift the other women in your life so they are able to gain confidence in their abilities. Jesus came to disciple, save, and serve. Not necessarily in that order. Women, if we work together and follow these principles, our world will change. Make an effort to vow to yourself that you will be a better woman, thus a better leader and example to those who need your help. God help us all!
Love Monica
Women are very interesting creatures. I think they are beautiful, mesmerizing, strong, captivating, remarkable creations. And then we open our mouths.
Women are emotional and sensitive. Duh. If you are a woman reading this right now you're impatient that I'm even mentioning these obvious characteristics. Here are other observations I've noted about women that aren't so, well, nice:
*Women are competitive (with men, for men, to be seen by men, to be seen with men by other women)
*Women are territorial (we don't like to share)
*Women are catty (we pick small items to nag about and may manage to throw things if you're "not listening)
*Women are gossips (we say something to your face and talk about you behind your back, within the same 10 minutes sometimes)
*Women are loyal (we will fight for a friend even if we AND they are wrong)
*Women are jealous (of child-making abilities, of someone's position in life, of someone's body/health/hair/car/lifestyle/man)
*Women don't play fair (we feel free to point out judgements among others but swat away others poking fingers at us)
There were women in the Bible who competed to have more children and to have access to the husbands that they shared. There were women who were naturally beautiful and some who weren't who competed for the spotlight and for attention and affection. I understand how this could spur jealousy and insecurity. Those darn Hebrew men and their laws.
Nowadays women compete to see who can look the smallest after having kids. Or who can look like they have had the least plastic surgery done (or maybe it's the most? I don't ever know). Nowadays women would rather fight and harm with words than stand up and share responsibility for conflicts, or to put unrealistic expectations on children who have yet to grow into themselves physically and emotionally. Women can be downright mean and evil. "Snakes in the grass" that we wouldn't trust "as far as we could throw them."
It's quite saddening. All of the gossip, the immaturity/insecurity, the lack of grace and humility, the impatience, the unwillingness to let go and move on, is hindering the God-given gifts that are endowed specifically on women. Women risk their lives in other parts of the world by just possessing a vagina; struggling to obtain equal rights as men in the workforce; struggling to be a part of the church ministry; struggling to fight trafficking and keep their integrity and dignity intact and protect their children; struggling to pray for their families to be reconciled, for grievances to be fought through, for those "stuck" to become "unstuck" and to move on and grow; struggling not to give up or in to the demands of their children and to be firm in their best judgements; struggling to be encouraged when others seem to make a life's habit of telling them where they fail or how they should grow and when they should do things; struggling just to live and be counted for.
Women would make such a bigger impact on the world if they let go of the petty attitudes, the griping, the complaining, the nagging and learn to forgive and be forgiven. They would be stronger as a gender society if they would support one another, speak the truth in love, accept humility and patience as constant battles in life that they intend to fight. Women would be so much more useful if they worked together and not against. The Enemy has placed so many triggers in our minds and hearts through society, the media, misinterpreting Scripture and other religious garb, and through placing women in our lives who are just as if not more unstable than we are.
Women, stand up! Grow up! Put on your armor and get out there to fight. Show your children how to be strong. Show your loved ones that you are supportive unconditionally. Don't force yourselves onto one another, as Jesus never forced himself on anyone, no matter how "right" He was. He made himself available. Be available! Listen to that friend, even if you're on a tight time crunch. Time is just a measure of space, relax! Find ways to better yourself, and put one foot in front of the other while you prioritize those things and do them to the best of your ability. Seek positive and fruitful counsel! Whether from a therapist, a women's group at church, any way you can find help to maintain your emotional and mental health. The Enemy uses others to break down the thinning wall of wellbeing that surrounds your heart and your mind. Guard your heart! Set up boundaries to high heaven if that's necessary. Your heart and mind are your own responsibility to guard and keep in tip-top shape for the well-being of your family unit, your work, and your mission in life.
The book of Titus instructs the older women to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and their children. Older women, please support the younger women! Talk to them! Offer help! Offer advice! Be humble and admit things you could have done better. Life should not be one big secret. It is most meaningful to share, encourage, and uplift the other women in your life so they are able to gain confidence in their abilities. Jesus came to disciple, save, and serve. Not necessarily in that order. Women, if we work together and follow these principles, our world will change. Make an effort to vow to yourself that you will be a better woman, thus a better leader and example to those who need your help. God help us all!
Love Monica
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