You ever hear someone smugly tell you some wise saying and you believe it? Then you start to thinking, "Does it really say that in the Bible?" Not that people can't be wise, but every good and perfect gift is from above, so if it's true wisdom it should reflect a well-known source for wisdom...which for Christians is the Bible. Here's some things that really make me think twice when I hear them said: "Actions speak louder than words." I'm not an expert on the Bible, but I do and have read a lot and I don't remember this one. I remember ones along similar lines, such as "Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right " which is simply saying that even children's characters can be deciphered by what they do, whether they do it with mischief or sincerity. Another verse is "Out of the mouth the heart speaks ." Here's the kicker: an action is a function carried out through output of the con...

Know your truth! Anyone who didn't live it, doesn't know it! My friend, your confidence and self-esteem must be strong for this one. So many of us, especially those who are known as Adult Children, seek approval as a means of value to their life. The problem is that most people want you to pay a heavy price for their approval, one that is demeaning to your growth and recovery. It can be denial, it can be suppression of healing, or any number of things that are not right for you. Know your truth! Stand in it so you don't fall or lead others to remain in predicaments they need to get out of. I am inspired by the Bible because of all the adversity and controversy discussed in the stories. Many prophets were afraid...people back in those days would stone them to death for hearing something told they didn't want to hear, for being told something that made them uncomfortable, for being asked to change something they weren't trying to change. Some prophets ran away, l...

My description of an Adult Child would be as follows: an individual who is legally an adult but still has  child-like underdevelopment due to malnutrition of mental/emotional health, and may be living in conditions where there stinted growth is causing them to have dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships in the real world. Emotionally they are still in a child-like state and need to grow up.  I would dare to say some characteristics of Adult Children would be approval-seeking; trouble with rejection; attention-seeking; trouble saying "no" and feeling bad when they do; feeling anxiety or depression because of others' thoughts about them; staying in physically or emotionally abusive and manipulative relationships because they don't know a way out or even know that they are in a harmful relationship. I would estimate that Adult Children make up a remarkable part of our population, but women are more easily spotted and observed than men. Why are there adult children? On...